Love is not Rude

What’s the opposite of rude? What does it mean to respect someone?

Respect = polite behaviour for someone you think is important and care for.

Respect is polite. When people before you are important; if you consider them then you are not rude. When people are rude they easily lose self-control. Young people are rude when they are angry, they answer in a way that’s not polite, they act in a way that is not pleasing; when they are like that they don’t care who’s around them.

Polite = having or showing good manners and having respect for the feelings of others.

If you say Angela is polite you’ll see it by her behaviour/actions, it’s not about the clothes she’s wearing, or her way of talking is really kind, it’s about her behaviour. If you are angry with Angela she’ll never reply in a bad way, she’ll listen and explain or maybe she’ll say sorry I can’t talk now.

If we say love is not rude it means that we have Christians in the church of God but there are some who are rude in their lives; they can do things without thinking about the presence of God, wherever they go. If Paul wrote this to the Corinthians it meant that there were some people who were rude at that time, maybe they were deacons or pastors, they didn’t respect others. God said how can you say you love me whom you don’t see while you are not able to respect or love someone who is next to you. If God said that’s it’s impossible to love Him while we don’t love people around us it means that respecting others is very important.

Respect is part of love, it you love someone you will see that person as being very important for you. God created us human beings like Him, He decided to give what He made life, He found it to be very precious and He appreciated it. God didn’t really care if animals died or the trees were cut down, but He does care if one of His human beings would change their nature to become a sinner, God cares. It bothers Him a lot if he sees a human being He created who looks like Him and goes away from His Kingdom, this doesn’t glorify God.

Imagine if you lived alone in this area or just with animals the way that Adam did, Adam found that everything was good, but he had that feeling that he needed someone like him, although he didn’t tell God that he still had that feeling; and God also thought that another human-being for this man would be important, so He gave Adam Eve. Adam considered Eve the same way he considered himself, his flesh and his bones; to mean that if something went wrong in his flesh or his bones he would feel the pain and know that there is something wrong – and if now you are born of my bones and are in a hard situation I will have the same feeling because I will know that this is a part of my body that is in pain. From there Adam taught us the importance of a human being. A human being by himself is useless, but if you have someone next to you who looks like you it will be really great. Even though there might have been angels or the Holy Spirit Adam still enjoyed being with his wife, they were together, they talked together and then they started to live together.

Eve means mother of all living. If you are called mother it means that there is some respect there, there is some importance because later you’ll have descendants who will later give you honour and respect. You can also see that none of us have two mothers biologically, you can see from there that God said that human-beings are to respect their parents and whoever will respect his parents will live longer and be blessed, God made that the fourth commandment.

So who are our parents, we know that God is our father. Do we really respect God so that we can live forever, because God said respect me and you’ll live eternally, on the other hand, do we respect our physical parents, if yes then we’ll live for a long time; we are also called to live in a good relationship with others around us, those people are human beings like us, God put others around us the way he put Eve with Adam. What is our attitude about those people? Am I praising God for you and him, does it really excite me to see Peter next to me, if that’s the way then praise God because I’ll see the importance of that person in front of God and my own eyes also, God is the one who chose Zoe to be with me etc. If we don’t appreciate people that God gave to us then it means that we don’t like God’s offer and when we don’t accept it we’ll break the first rule, God needs glory, he needs people to praise Him for what He’s doing for them.

Our way of talking to the people around us and our way of living with them will start to prove if we are really polite or not. If you know that really I love Anglea and she does something wrong, you will not declare everywhere that she did this and that no, I will meet her and talk to her and fix the problem. You will find a way to take care of the situation carefully.

Paul said to the Corinthians to love, if you don’t love you are nothing, don’t be rude to anybody, respect young and old people, be polite in your actions. If the pastor comes to reproach you he doesn’t have the right to do it harshly he needs wisdom to come and talk in a nice way and you also are to reply in a nice way. If the pastor comes in a dictatorship way you will be disappointed and respond without having any respect.

Do not be rude, you know who you are, maybe people have already told you your behaviour, maybe God has already told you, with some people you can respect them but with others you don’t, you listen to some people and not to others. We can forget about the value of human beings around us and we can really neglect them, we don’t care. For God it’s like a lack of respect, He put this person next to you but you show that you don’t need that person, you are rude.

Example: David knew that he would replace Saul, but because he knew the value of Saul as a king he still respected him, he tried to live properly with Saul even though Saul didn’t accept. The way that Saul didn’t respect others and God, he ended up not respecting himself by falling on his sword. He showed the world that he didn’t love himself by killing himself; if you love yourself you can’t kill yourself, if you have problems then kill your problems and leave your body alone. After killing yourself it’s worse because then comes judgement and you’ll never be able to solve that one.

It’s really easy to be rude when you are angry, when you hate someone or something it’s easy to be rude, when you don’t have self-control you can be rude.