Saturday, June 10, 2017
By Odon Bulamba
It’s a joy to meet again this morning. Today all over the world people have been celebrating Easter. Some are shouting, drinking, spending night in a night-club but here we are meeting this morning not because of the Jesus that passed away but the Jesus that is back to life.
Today’s message is a bit challenging. I will take it to another dimension where we have to think together and discover the true meaning of Jesus’ resurrection. God of Abraham. Why talk about Abraham rather than Jesus’ death and resurrection
Read John 20
This bank note is just a sheet of paper when we don’t know what it is. It becomes important when we think about its value. Some people may get killed for this. Some work hard all their lives to get money. Maybe for $20 per hour, some will work hard. Sometimes when I go around the world and I take the NZ banknote, they will say, “no we don’t need this, we need our own currency”.
For the resurrection of Jesus, many will say they don’t know this and they only need their own currency and their own preaching.
Early in the morning, Mary decided to go to the tomb of Jesus that was on the third day. Remember Jesus told everyone He would come back to life on the third day. Mary woke up early and picked up perfume and decided to take it with her to perfume the body of Jesus. Imagine at 5am someone asking you to walk through the cemetery. You won’t feel comfortable. I should wait for the sun to rise when day is there.
Mary with her courage got up early in the morning to start the journey. Maybe others asked her why? This is the power of the message today. How to do things that look strange to human beings that look sense to Jesus.
How often do you wake up early to go close to God to start to pray. Perfume represents prayers. When do I wake up early while it is still dark to worship our God? When Mary entered the tomb, she saw the stone rolled aside and the Bible says that she ran back to Peter and the other disciple that Jesus loved (John) to tell them, “they have taken Jesus somewhere”. Mary didn’t check inside the tomb but went to talk to Peter and John. I don’t know where they took his body.
Very often when we approach a situation from far away and we see just signs, we panic. Here Mary forgot completely that it was the third day, the day that Jesus was supposed to come back to life. She forgot about the resurrection of Jesus. After telling Peter and John, the Bible says that Peter and John started to run together to go towards the tomb. As they were running, John was faster than Peter and he took off. Maybe Peter was heavy or fat like me so he couldn’t keep up.
John didn’t think about Peter. He split from Peter, “You are too slow, I need to go faster”. In your life you will start a journey with someone, maybe start a business, begin studying or working with someone and somehow the other person will progress faster than you and get all the shining glory but you are back there and they get all the blessing. My companion is so far ahead but I am behind. We started together but now you leave me behind.
Haven’t you come through a situation where your friend was with you but they took off and left you behind and they don’t hold your hand to run together but because they are sharper and faster than you. For example, some are blessed to know the Word of God and others don’t, some get healing quickly and others get it slowly.
Although John was faster when he reached the tomb he stopped and didn’t enter inside the tomb to check if the body of Jesus was there but saw the linen clothing. Peter who was slow in running, met him there. Don’t worry in life if someone has gone ahead of you, let God take you there slowly because you will find them stuck somewhere and they won’t know where to go.
John didn’t have courage to enter the tomb while this was the purpose of going. It’s like you and me going to the cemetery and me asking you to enter the tomb. The tomb doesn’t have light inside. Don’t envy those who take off fast or started the journey early. Keep with your God and you will reach there in the right time.
Not only did Peter see the linen clothes but he entered into the tomb and then saw the napkin that had been around Jesus’ head and that the linen was folded in the corner. John didn’t see because he didn’t step inside. There are things that you will only receive if you take the step of perseverance, when you accept to come closer to Jesus. If you say, I’m a catholic/protestant but I stop here and don’t want to get closer then you will only see the linen clothes but if you step in, you will also see the napkin.
Peter told John, look here is the napkin and then he believed. What did he believe? Not that Jesus was alive but that the body of Jesus was not there. Peter doesn’t remember it was the third day that Jesus was supposed to be alive.
John 20: 8 & 9, how often do we do this in life, “God I have been praying to you, I go to chapel and you are not there so I go home disappointed. People have abandoned me. I have tried my best to come to your tomb to look after you and you are not there, you keep silent where are you God? I give up religion and faith, I go back home because I am tired”. “Many people will ask and it is given to them and others knock and the door is opened but when it is my turn, you don’t answer or show up or consider my problems, God you don’t love me, I give up”. How often have you given up in your life?
Peter and John went home.
John 20:11, she didn’t stay there she went back to the tomb and was outside and she started to cry. Peter and John left and didn’t even consider Mary, they left her there and took off. I have seen a mother leave a child at the supermarket because the child doesn’t obey.
Why was Mary crying? Because she was left behind? Because the body of Jesus was not found? Peter and John didn’t search for the body? She brought that issue to Peter and maybe she trusted Peter would do something? Peter let her down. How often in your life do you share a serious problem with someone and they let you down? How does it feel when they don’t care? That is what Mary was crossing.
Mary was crying and she looked inside the tomb and she saw two angels. How will you react if you see an angel? You may scream. If I see two people sitting in the tomb I will be afraid. Only one body was in the tomb but now there are two. In Africa, we will believe they are ghosts and I won’t come close. Ghosts are not a joke.
Several years ago, I was in the church praising God and we saw fire flying inside our church. The fire came in and all together we saw it. How many people remained in the church? Many were trying to jump out the windows to escape. Fear made us scream and shout for help. It was a witchcraft. Whenever a danger comes, not many will face it.
Mary saw those two people. They asked her, “why are you crying?” How often has God asked you why are you crying? Maybe because of your children, boss at work, pain in your body, your finances, what you are trying to achieve is not successful, your neighbours make your life hard, your police, those around you treating you badly. It is up to you now to tell your God why you are crying. “This is my problem. I’m not crying for joy or fun but because something is wrong”.
I have never seen a shop where they sell tears. Tears don’t come out because you want to please yourself. Some people can pretend to cry but normally tears only come out when you are joyful or very sad, you can’t control yourself. The power in your heart pushes your tears to come out. In New Zealand when you cry someone will rub my shoulder and say, “it’s alright”. It doesn’t change the situation and it is still your own problem. I will suffer until the day I find a solution.
Mary told the angels, “I’m crying because they have taken away my Lord and I don’t know where they have taken him”. When someone dies, we usually put them in the grave and abandon them but not Mary, she continued to look after a dead body. A dead body is eaten by the worms. She felt bad for the dead body not being there.
Maybe she was disappointed because those two people weren’t what she wanted. She turned around and saw this man and it was Jesus. Mary used to live with Jesus but she doesn’t recognise him. “Here I am”. She looked at him and thought it was maybe a gardener of the cemetery. Jesus asked her, “why are you weeping?”
Mary said, “if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him and I will take him”. She assumed that Jesus maybe took the body of Jesus. How often do we assume things wrongly and judge people? I’ve lost my phone, “oh Tyrone if you took my phone give it back”. Why should I think Tyrone took my phone? Because he is suspect.
Very often we suspect people doing things they may not do. When we suspect them we don’t even want to know more. I see someone touched my stuff, it must be that guy. To suspect is not a sin but going closer and asking the person if they have seen the stuff is better.
John 20:14, “when I’m talking you will know it’s me”. By listening to a person’s voice you can tell who they are. Mary still did not recognise Jesus. Jesus called her name meaning he knew her. Imagine someone says your name on the street, you will turn around. If you recognise the voice, you will know who the person is that is calling your name. Mary spent a lot of time with Jesus but did not recognise him.
The sheep know the voice of the shepherd. Wasn’t she a sheep among the shepherd? She called back, “Master”. What pushed her to call him master without recognising him as master? Jesus said, “don’t touch me but go back and tell the brethren that I am getting ready to go back to my God and your God”. He doesn’t call them disciples but brethren. Who are the brethren? Those that Jesus used to preach to became his brothers. “Mary tell them that I am ascending now to go back to my God and your God, my father and your father”.
The God of Jesus is my God. The father of Jesus is my father which means that Jesus is my brother. If your God Jesus is my God, then we are brothers and belong to the same family. Jesus lowered himself to say my God is your God. When I shouted on the cross, “my God why have you forsaken me”, this was not only my God but your God.
Jesus is telling us that I’m bringing you up a level higher so we can have the same father and same God. Mary went back to talk to the disciples and told them what she had seen. Mary didn’t report to all the brethren, only the disciples.
Are you among the brethren? Or only a disciple? When God tells you to go somewhere, do you only go to one tribe and shrink the mission to those that we know and those that will accept us and listen to us and cut off others.
The Ruakura centre has a few hundred of workers and in one office you will have 20 people and then you have a small team in the office. The small team doesn’t care what is happening in the other offices (except to gossip). Our mission is not limited.
Jesus appeared to his disciples. The same evening, the third day evening, Jesus appeared to his disciples and said, “peace be unto you”. Have peace? It changes nothing. It doesn’t mean I will get it. Peace where? In my heart, in my family? Jesus instead of saying, “hooray, here I am”, He said, “peace be unto you”. He knew the disciples were waiting but He comes talking about peace. The disciples talk about their own things.
He showed his hands and side. It means that they don’t recognise him and that it is the third day and that the Lord is alive. Then they started to have joy, it is the Lord. Today is the third day today, we forgot about that.
Jesus instead of joining His disciples to rejoice, He said again, “peace to you”. We are celebrating and talking about joy and Jesus talks about peace. Peace to you, this is weird. Instead of celebrating our joy. Peace as the father sent me, I send you too. Where?
Jesus breathed on them. Receive the Holy Spirit. Breathing on me and I will receive the Holy Spirit? This is a big challenge of faith. For the first time in Genesis 2:7, God breathed on someone’s nostrils and that was Adam. Jesus comes and breaths on the disciples and they receive the Holy Spirit. When someone breathes on you, maybe you will find it strange, annoying, maybe their breath stinks, we will think they don’t respect themselves, how can they breathe on us adults.
Jesus vanished. Thomas was not present. When Thomas came back, they told him the story. “No Jesus can’t come”. The pictures on the bank note are different on each side but still the same bank note. Jesus was showing everyone that He was showing one side of Him and now I’m talking about the true story of resurrection.
When you see the print on my hand and side with your human eyes, you can see. When I speak and breathe, you can’t see it. Thomas said, “I have to see Him before I believe him and I need to touch the scars to put my fingers in the print so I can believe that Jesus is alive”.
For some, when things are tough in their life and someone tells them that they prayed for you and that they will get what they need and the Bible says this is the answer to your problem, they won’t believe it unless they see it in their hands, unless they touch it, that is the only moment that they will say God has answered.
We get very easily disappointed in life because we don’t get what we see with our eyes. Jesus didn’t appear to Thomas for eight days and then He called him, “these are my hands, touch them now”. “My God and my father”. Thomas didn’t repent that he was doubting. When I am wrong, instead of saying, forgive me, I think that it has past now, let it go. We sometimes forget that accepting we are wrong and asking forgiveness, is the only visa to heaven. You can have money, know the Bible but without repentance, you won’t enter the Kingdom of God. It doesn’t cost anything.
Jesus said to Thomas, “better those who believe without seeing”. Do you really believe without seeing? When you are going through problems and challenges, do you believe God is the solution without seeing? Jesus is nearby you and telling you why are you weeping? Tell Jesus your problem and trust Him. You don’t need to touch Him as He told Mary not to touch him.
A prophet in Africa has 500,000 followers but he works for satan and people become one of his to gain what they need. In order to get what they need, he must cut the back of their neck with a razor blade and then he sucks the blood. You will collect money. Then he will tell you, the power from your blood doesn’t work anymore. I need your son, husband or wife because I need more blood. People sacrifice each other because of the love of money and they want to see answers quickly.
Pastors go there to collect the power so people will fall over when I speak. This is the end of the time when Jesus is telling us, “peace, don’t look for anything else”. Not joy. Peace because if you have peace you don’t care about the rest and you will only have peace when you decide to do what is right. If someone hurts you, forgive them and keep your peace.
God chose Abraham because he was a man of peace. Someone took his wife. A king. Abraham allowed his wife to be taken because he needed peace. If you were Sarah, how would you feel? God asked for Abraham’s son to be sacrificed. For peace, Abraham gave his son to God. Sarah wanted a son and she told Abraham, “you must take my servant”. To have peace, Abraham did it.
Fight for peace in your life, family, work place. Churches often forget about this message. We try our best to forget about peace and only think about joy.
Sunday, June 4, 2017
Monday, May 29, 2017
“Blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted” Mathew 5:4
By Hayley Boud
Blessed are those that mourn. It doesn’t sound like a blessing. When we mourn we are more than sad. Mourning is something very difficult. It is extremely hard. You lose your peace, you don’t feel like eating or doing anything, you lose your motivation. We usually mourn because we have lost something very important to us. How can that be a blessing?
We should mourn when we sin or see sin in others. When we fall into temptation, we should feel that it is difficult like losing something important because we have lost the most important thing of all, our relationship with Jesus. We also lose our relationship with others, our reputation, our opportunity to share Jesus and maybe even lose the souls of others.
This should make us lose our peace and makes us feel sad and not feel like eating. When we let God down and others down, we should feel that sadness of losing something important to us. That feeling is a blessing because at that moment, we have true repentance and we can be comforted because Jesus can now remove the sin from us. We can be comforted knowing that when we repent, Jesus’ blood can clean us and we can get back what we lost and no longer lose it again.
When we repent we make a decision to never go back to the same temptation and by doing that we can be comforted knowing that our relationship with God is restored. It can also restore our relationship with people and our reputation. However, we should know that sometimes we lose things for good when we sin. For example, we can lose the souls of those around us because of our bad example. E.g. the Anglican minister who was really mean to me. This made me think that I would never, ever go to an Anglican church. Had I not been a Christian I would have been put off Christ all together. This lady would have lost a soul.
Let’s feel that sadness in our hearts for lost souls so that we can be a good testimony and not lose our reputation. Very often once our reputation is lost, it is lost forever. This should make us mourn and then we can be comforted by Jesus knowing that He can work through us to save souls so long as we make that decision not to fall into temptation. If we sin, we should feel the burden of our sin and the consequences of our sin so that we can truly repent and then we can be comforted knowing that Jesus purifies us and He wipes the slate clean.
Sunday, May 28, 2017
By Odon Bulamba
Special day for me and possibly for you too. Why? First for me, I was not supposed to be here this morning. Due to what I faced for the past several days it is only by the grace of God that I am here among you? Where I went last time I was overseas, I didn’t go as a tourist to look around but I went to a place where I saw terrible things and did not expect. Imagine someone telling you Shari, your son is in the hands of ISIS. How will you feel? You will be shocked, you will see death, torture and I went across that situation.
I had to leave New Zealand without knowing where I was going because I had to visit someone who was sick and that sickness was started because she was captured by ISIS and taken from place to place. I will talk about that more on 19 march.
Thanks to God first of all when I went to Congo last time, our small group here has given birth to a big church there that is maybe 40x bigger than this one. Like a seed of beans that you sacrificed and then it gives a harvest that is more than one seed. These people have been watching messages on line. Now have they started a branch of Little Bethlehem Church. When I was invited I was shocked to see hundreds sitting on the ground, on stones without a roof, no microphone and they are adoring God and have giving their lives to God.
How can your prayer be the key to opening doors to new churches somewhere else? When you are praying to save people and telling God, “I want your word to reach others”, God answers. I would be happy for you to see this church and the fruit of your work and prayers. I praise God for that. Now we need to do something for those people. They want the trust deed so they can register their church and follow us and be a branch of this church. We are now parents of this small new born church.
My message this morning will be about family first. When we talk about family we see mother father and children. A family is not something that you just pick up but something that God has chosen. You didn’t have a choice of who will be your mother/father/sister in family. God made that choice for you. Ange you are now living in Hockley family. When God created the world, the Bible doesn’t tell us that He created a space for seven days for angels to live but He created the world for us. We have fish, birds, and animals just for humanity to survive. He has created a place just for you and me on earth.
God found that He needed a human being and that that man should never be by himself. This was the beginning of the family. He put Adam and Eve together to make the first family and said, “Multiply yourselves”. Adam had no idea when he was sleeping what would happen but when he woke up, he found this is what I need.
Yesterday when you were young you did not know who you would marry tomorrow. Then suddenly, here is Nathan for Shari. Colleen has found Keith. God will bring someone new in your life that you have never known before and you will make a family and then you will have your descendants. The best gift ever that God has given humans apart from Jesus on the cross is the family but we always put our family last.
“These children make me crazy, what type of husband/wife have you given me, why did I get this mother?” We complain. I wish my father was like this person’s parent’s.
Nehemiah 4:12-14, we find a text where Nehemiah came across a strategy of using families. We have to build a wall in groups of families. The Lord has given this message to Nehemiah which is opening our minds and hearts today. Asking the people to look after their families and not be afraid of the enemy but to fight for the friends, family and homes.
Does your family come first in your life or not? If God has given me a family, I should put it as the first position. We can fight for those around us but not for our families. Who is your family? We have two: (1) physical brothers, sisters and parents (2) spiritual church.
Physical side you will see a father who does not really love his family or mother who doesn’t care much about her family. We church sometimes don’t care about each other. We live as pieces of puzzles and we lose the shape when we are separated by the wind.
When God created the first family, satan was not happy and so he tempted them to divide them. Satan knew that once the families stick together, then he will be defeated so he first wanted to separate them from the love of God. Your first temptation in life will come from your family. Your mother/father or sister can be a stumbling block for you. That is why Nehemiah is saying fight for your families and your houses and then for your friends.
It was not your choice to be born in your family but ask yourself why God put you in this family. Ask yourself, what role should I play in this family? What is the mission God gave me in this family? Many fail in this. Including pastors, preachers and prophets. They can organise the church but at home there is fire.
Someone can be a director of a big company but their family can be divided. Satan is trying to separate you from your family to hate your family. Do you love every person of your family? No. Do you share your opinion with all your family members? No. Can you walk proudly with each member of your family? No. Sometimes yes but not every time.
You might defend your child but inside your heart you know where you stand face to face with God. We try to avoid realities what God has given to us as responsibilities. “Go to school now so I can have a rest. My child is a burden. I can’t move around because of my child”. Some children as they are growing old, “oh mum this is old fashioned, you know nothing mum, my generation is different to yours. You don’t belong to this generation so I have nothing to do with you. I’m grown up now”.
When you gave birth you can say proudly, “this is my baby” and some cry and hold the baby with joy. “Who does she look like?” Comparisons will begin on who they look like. The baby is a gift from God. Your first responsibility is to raise that child. For no reason the child will cry. “What is your problem?” No reason. “Angela, take care of your child I need to rest, take her away”. The mother has to carry the child away. As the child is growing older, you don’t realise that they are growing. Yesterday a baby and today, no more a baby.
The seed that you put in the child is growing with the child. If satan visited your family as a child, he will visit four times more. The child stand up and talks harshly in front of everyone, you can feel ashamed. Neighbours will judge. This is what you get from not educating your child. It can be satan, it can be a challenge that God is using to remind you that you have a gift from Him and you must help your child.
I once saw a court case where the mother said, “no my son will never do that” but finally the son said, “I did it”. The mother was shocked. Never say you know your children very well and you will defend them. Possibly say, “as far as I know but I should ask my child first”.
When Nehemiah put the families together, he gave them tools to fight with. What have you given to your family to fight the wars. When you come home angry, with problems, when your children are not living safely, what have you given them to protect themselves? Of course we pray to protect them but do they have any weapon to stand against the attack of Satan. If yes, how did you train them to use that tool? You can’t say, “I invited my child to church, that is enough”. They need to practice.
Many will consider their parents as evil. How will God think about that? You are treating the person I gave you as evil. If my parents are evil, then I should pray for them and love them. But if I just tell people my parents are evil, God who made that selection for you will be shocked and ashamed.
Genesis 49, this is the time when Jacob wanted to die. Jacob was a good friend of God who was chosen in the womb of his mum. He was dodgy and tricky but he was a friend of God and God named him Israel and we are the children of Israel. God has chosen this same Jacob who was naughty to give birth to the 12 tribes. God has chosen the one who could lie in order to earn and gain and God thought this is my choice. It doesn’t matter how good or bad your child is, keep praying, keep fighting for your family.
What does it mean to fight? It means you engage yourself in a battle and you forget your jeans, your glasses and put them aside and use your strength. Some are born weak but because of practising, they build up their strength and become strong. In your family who do you think you should fight for? Should you only fight for your sister or yourself and forget the rest. Joshua said, “my family and I will serve the lord”. Us today, “Lord I want to serve you” but we forget our families.
Jacob was given 12 children, and in Genesis 49, he started to bless them. Rueben you are this but I don’t like this. He was attacked. Simon and Levi, you are my children, your anger is not good. Those two gentlemen had a sister who was raped and they became angry against the man who raped their sister and they waited for the time of circumcision and so they attacked the men for revenge. Now, Levi is cursed and Simon are cursed while it was the time to get the blessing.
As you can see Jacob invited the family. How often do you invite your family, how often do you have time to talk to your family, not for a party but talk as a family and bless them and pray for them. How often does that happen? Never.
God has made you as a light of your family but at zero occasion you invite your family to talk and bless them. We don’t have time for that but to hold a party we can have ideas and we can make something special for you.
Your anger is not good. To become angry is not a sin but your anger should look at the sky and once the sun is going down, your anger must stop. You can become angry but once sun goes down, stop your anger. Don’t bring back what took place two years ago.
Families have secrets. This is a family issue, we can’t talk about it outside of our compounds. Jacob kept secret in his heart and now the time came to tell off his family so they could learn from their mistakes. “I, Jacob, your father, I was a terrible person, I lied to my father, my boss” but he didn’t want his children to go through the same mistakes. He didn’t want them to be on the wrong path. Be careful because the curse is following you.
From my mistakes, what do I teach my children and myself, my cousins or am I just there to point my finger and blame them. After talking to the children, Levi was the only one that was not cursed because of his behaviour. Those children continued to live but they were supposed to put aside anger. Your family breaks apart because of anger. How often do you become angry against your mother, wife, children for small things and that anger doesn’t stop there but after two weeks you continue to talk about it, “I will never forgive that, it is unacceptable”?
We go back to the past and dig it up to bring back to the presence. Your anger is destroying your family. Your anger must stop when the sun goes down. “Triden, you are my son but you promised not to do this anymore but why are you doing this again” and sometimes we are proud to show others that we are angry with them. God is looking at you and asking, “do you want me to remove these people from you?” Sometimes mothers will say, “Stop it, I will kill you” and we can sometimes even swear. How will you feel if God takes away that child from you? Yesterday you were complaining and today you have a rest but you don’t want to rest anymore. Levi and Simon knew they were wrong and knew they should deal with anger issue.
Same with us. When Pete does something wrong you will see Ange’s hand become strong. We are in a battle. When a child does something, parents become angry and vice-versa. Anger is one of the best tools to divide families. Once angry, how will you pray for me? How will you ask God to help me and save me? When you hear stories about your father, you become angry but is that really from God? It is our task to protect our family. Whenever Leah is doing something wrong, instead of helping Leah I judge Ange and make her angry so she can attack Leah. Some enjoy breaking peace in families.
Praise God, we have eyes. When your child is wrong, we don’t need to shout at them and tell the neighbours but talk nicely, responsibly with respect. When you are angry, can you control your mouth? You vomit everything on that person and destroy peace in your family. If I attack Ken in front of Michelle, she will not be happy because I attack her brother. If I attack Nicole in front of Leah, she won’t be happy because she is her aunty. What we say under anger, we tear apart our families and then we are the first to complain and criticise. Family is called to live in unity.
Some people show others that all is good but in their heart there is fire and behind the person’s back they say things like, “oh that person is bad, what they did to me, I can’t accept this. I will judge, criticise, hate and show the world she is a monster”. As family of God we are called to forgive and live one for another. As the Bible says, let those who are strong help those who are weak. If you are stronger than your family members, then why don’t you intervene and support them. You are the first to stone them, expose them, mock them.
Moses went to the mountain and came down and saw those worshiping a gold statute. Levi was the only one who put up his hand and said we are on the side of the lord. Yesterday we were wrong but today we put aside anger and learn. Levi who was cursed in Genesis 49, if you read Leviticus you will see God has blessed those people because they were the only people to serve God, to carry the arc. Don’t say that someone is a bad person in the family because they may change and you will be amazed that the weakest one, God will rise up and make the strongest one.
If God can change Levi and the people who did great things in Bible. Why not in your family? Who is the Simon in your family? Who is the Reuben in your family? Do you know very well your family? You need to teach your family how to act and handle problems and situations. Other parents because of pressure and stress sometimes they can teach the children, “look what your father did, look what your aunty did” and we start to accuse our family to our own children.
If you can’t handle your situation, will your child be able to handle it? How will your 4 year old child handle it? We are called to kneel down and pray and not look only at the wrong side but look at what these people have done for your family in a positive way. Once you start to see the positive, you will see no one else could do that for you. What we do is unique.
My mother told me recently that when I was only two years old she misplaced a coin that she really needed for soap and I picked it up and she couldn’t find it while I was holding it and at front of the shop I put out my hand and she took the money without asking. Other things our children do in our lives can change the situation. If I had thrown away the coin or not offered it to her, she could not have bought the soap. Teach your children how to say sorry and then forget about it. Don’t humiliate your children, father, husband in front of everybody.
We are called to know that anger is not a good took to use in our families. You were not born angry. If so, be angry over good things. I can’t read my Bible for two days, I’m angry with myself, I must read it now. That is a good anger. To destroy with your anger is terrible. I have seen husbands run away from wives because of anger. Control your anger then you will know how to help your family.
If you don’t have love for one of your family members, now is the time to start to love them. When Jesus used to fish, he never used the fishing rod but a net. He would tell people, cast your net. With a fishing rod you will only catch one fish at a time. One time Peter cast his net on one side and caught nothing until God told him to cast the net on the other side. Cast your net on the other side to help your family to be caught. If you keep saying, no this is the way I want to treat them, then they will never be caught for Jesus.
The net is you and me and we can bring many in with love. If your relationship is poor then go through another family member to bring you back together because it will be sad on the last day of judgement if you don’t see all you love in heaven. Won’t God say it is because of you, “I gave them to you, what role did you give to your family to prepare for the battle?” Pray and make a step and go out to ask for forgiveness and build your relationship.